Dear Brothers
Posted by ladyelaine80 on November 13, 2011
My dear single brothers in the faith:
I get it now. I understand now why I”m beating off the unbelieving/different faiths with a stick, and why I don’t get asked out by Christian guys. I realize now the current dynamics between can be explained by several different factors, and one of them, after reading this is the magnetism that a “girl with a past” has on a Christian guy. Apparently many of you give lip service to the concept of the virtuous woman but still judge virtue based on appearances(read:image, where perception is reality) than actions. And then, even after a woman meets such criteria, the existence of her virtues makes her as palatable or desirable as salty gravel to a thirsty man. So when you come across an attractive Christian woman in church, you’re quick to write her off because she’s too “churchy”. Which is ironic, because it seems that some of you rail against the type of snap judgments that my sisters make about you.
I know right now some of you are saying, “here we go, another male-bashing post”. But the truth is that I know this cuts both ways. I know that there are women who harbor unrealistic expectations and give lip service to the concept of the nice guy but really overlook them and chase the bad boy, thinking that they can change him(which is self-destructive and nuts). But I’m simply stating that I get it, and that I’m not going to beat a dead horse about you stepping up (or calling your friends out for their hypocritical behavior) any more. I’m only praying for your growth in God and that you grow into the man that God has called you to be, doing His will. (which, by the way, isn’t all that complicated). I am simply going to just be your friend and the best sister I can be, and accept the reality that my options are not found among you. It sucks, but I’d rather try to make the best of the situation than to mope about what I can’t change.
Iwant you to know that I know that’s it not easy. I know that trying and failing miserably hurts. But that doesn’t mean that you give up, or that it’s supposed to automatically easy. All great things take work, and wonderful things do not occur by accident or osmosis. That’s why I can only pray that you don’t give up, and that you find your hope, strength, worth, and value as a man in Christ, and Christ alone. You are not your occupation, income, or power position. Your value and purpose from our Creator, and His purposes and plans are much higher than ours. Granted, the roads there don’t always make sense, but the end, when we trust Him, is a beautiful one.
